Life's changes are a bit like the bumpers and flippers on a pinball machine. Changes propel you outward in new directions. When you breakup or get divorced, you are now bouncing off something that may have been comfortable and once worked for you into a whole new territory. This kind of change can be scary.
Underneath the chaos of a breakup or divorce is a pattern of growth, asking you to stretch and try new things, form new relationships, and see yourself in a new way. A breakup or divorce is throwing you out of your comfort zone into the unknown.
If you can embrace this sensation of drastic change by becoming curious about your life and new experiences, then underneath it all you will sense that you are always at ease no matter the circumstances. In this way, you will know that you are a pinball wizard at one with the seemingly beautiful chaos that is your life.